Scott LeGere & Kelly Munson | Pratfalls of Parenting Ep 55

Kelly & Scott “Kids, it just kind of makes what’s fractured more fractured and what’s solid more solid.”

Graphic designer Kelly Munson and musician and music producer Scott LeGere talk about parenthood changing their work, their goals, and their relationship with one another.

“If you’re not as talented as Prince, how do you find a side job.”

Scott talks about being a musician but ending up doing studio work and eventually starting the production company NoWare. He talks about working with artists like Prince who can call at a moments notice and rearrange any plans that may have been made. And Scott talks having a 9 to 5 job for the first time in his life and the difficulty of adjusting to that but also the positive impact its had on his relationship with Kelly.

0d57196e3007780f6247f3fba8fcf007“A creative career is two parts finding income and one part finding those projects that really creatively inspire you.”

Kelly talks about never imagining she would become a mom but rather focusing on building a career. Scott and Kelly talk about deciding to potentially get pregnant and how surprised they were by the speed with which pregnancy came.

“You kind of want to make your mark and then have kids.”

Kelly talks about waiting until she felt fulfilled and established in her career before even considering becoming a mother. She talks about transitioning to a new job specifically because it would be a better fit as a parent. And Kelly talks about having decide to put some projects and art practices on the back burner as a new mother.

“I didn’t want to just pretend like she wasn’t existing and work until 9pm every night.”

3541_10201177835434347_1484283341_nKelly talks about the challenges of using her creatively fulfilling skills to do work that isn’t her own and how that impacts her desire to apply those same skills to her own artwork. Scott talks about how the logistics of using his music to create advertisements still allow him space and energy to want to make his own art.

“I think our culture isn’t ready to see moms as purveyors of what’s cool.”

Kelly talks about seeing stigmas attached to motherhood and how that sometimes causes her to distance herself from identifying as a mom. She talks about the perception that moms are spread too thin and can’t be fully dedicated to their careers.

Kelly and Scott talk about their relationship before becoming parents and the impact parenthood has had on their relationship.  They talk about how having Lena has helped shape their day to day in a way that in many ways has improved their communication.

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Adam Levy | Pratfalls of Parenting Ep 54

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“In some ways I’m doing what I wanted to do as a preadolescent”

Songwriter, Musician, Teacher and Honeydogs frontman Adam Levy talks about teaching songwriting and how to approach a career as a musician.  He talks about the work required of a bandleader, particularly when performing for an audience full of children who will not pretend to be interested. Adam talks about how his role changes depending on which band hes playing with and whether or not they are a heavily rehearsing band or one that doesn’t rehearse at all.

“For me it was very therapeutic to talk about his death”

Adam talks openly and thoughtfully about losing his young adult son, Daniel, to suicide. He talks about the outpouring from other people and their desire to share their own personal stories. Adam talks about the ongoing process for himself, Daniel’s mother, and his daughters of trying to comprehend their loss, how it happened and what it means to them.

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“On the one hand, we’re able to talk about mental health, but on the other people feel such great shame around the death of a child”

Adam talks about the horrible feeling of know your child is suffering and not being able to do anything to provide comfort or relief. He shares stories of trying to create a positive and stable environment where his son could find regular help and live a full life. Adam also talks about the gaps that exist in the treatment and understanding of mental health. As well as the stigma that still exists for people who suffer from mood or personality disorders.

“Songwriting has kind of inadvertently become a form of therapy for me”

Adam talks about how songwriting serves as a way to make sense of things that happen in his life. He talks about the transcendent power of music and how it can create moments of painlessness. He also talks about getting back on stage and performing after losing his son.

“The loss is just so profound, I deal with it everyday”

Adam talks about writing songs to keep his toddlers busy and entertained and how that eventually led to the band The Bunnyclogs. He talks about many of the songs being born out of inside family jokes and how that still somehow translated into something entertaining for larger audiences. And he talks about playing shows with his young daughters.

“If you’re going to add another stuffed animal do not neglect the stuffed animals you have”

Check out some of Adam’s Projects:

Rose Room

And the Professors

Honeydogs

Bunny Clogs

Liminal Phase

Hookers and Blow

 

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David Lewis | Pratfalls of Parenting Ep 53

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“I always wanted to impress girls but I had no talent”

Director of Career & Alumni Services at McNally Smith David Lewis talks about becoming a concert promoter at age 15 mostly in an attempt to meet girls.  He talks about being driven by punk ideals in the creation and promotion of art. David talks about being in film school and realizing that he wasn’t a filmmaker.

“Art school taught me that I didn’t really have any interest in becoming an artist”

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David talks about transition from being a promoter of music and art to working in education. He talks about seeing his talented musician and artist friends who were awful at the business sides of their work where he had more ability. David talks about the creativity behind telling the stories of the artists he would be promoting for or working with.

 

“A year and a half later you might get a check but you needed to buy diapers right then and there”

David talks about spending a decade as a band and comedy promoter and how that work needed to end once he became a dad. He talks about the stress his first baby coupled with a demanding and heavy hours job put on his relationship with his wife. He talks about making decisions based on family being the central part of his life rather than work and how that was only possible because he didn’t feel like he had a lot left to prove with his work.

“I care about my career, I care way more about my family”

David comes about the relief that comes with having people to care about more than himself. He talks about trying to communicate with young people that they can have a successful career in the arts without the amplified self-destructive elements that are often so glorified in the art world.

“If success is about making great work then now is a great time to be doing these things”

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Stef Alexander (P.O.S.) | Pratfalls of Parenting Ep 52

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“The only thing I ever really wanted to do with my life was make music”

Rapper/musician Stef Alexander, aka P.O.S. of Doomtree and Rhymesayers,  talks about his first tour with a punk band when he was 14. He talks about being in elementary school and having the realization that making music was a job. Stef talks about his mom’s love of music and how important support from her has been in making music a career.

“There’s a difference between what your ideal is and your real life”

Stef talks about the financial realities of being an independent musician. He talks about getting comfortable with what he’s trying to communicate and taking pride in his ability to earn a living making the music he wants to make. And he talks about the role maturity plays on what he writes about.

“If you’re paying any attention at all you can see there’s a lot things that are unfair”

Stef talks about trying to make catchy, danceable music but that also has a complex and powerful message. He talks about trying to be consistently the same person in all areas of his life so that everyone he has relationships with knows what to expect.  Stef talks about meeting fans from the perspective of having been a fan first and being aware of the importance those human connections have.

“Both parenting and making songs are a real second nature at this point”

Stef talks about having conversation with his son about how people may try to be his friend in an attempt to get access to his dad’s shows. He talks about what its like for his son to have actual friends who really love his dad’s music. He also talks about the challenges of being a touring musician with other musicians who don’t have a family at home and don’t get the challenges of being a father on the road.

“I love my work so I’m not one of those dudes that’s crabby when I get home from work because I hate my job”

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Jeannine Coulombe | Pratfalls of Parenting Ep 51

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“I have no inheritance”

Playwright, theater artist, and teacher Jeannine Coulombe talks about deciding to concentrate on playwriting once she became a mother.

“I do find a parallel between playwriting and my father’s carpentry”

She talks about being a founding member of the Workhaus Collective and how much she gets out of producing hers and other’s work as well as writing plays. She talks about the complex relationship between a working playwright and William Shakespeare. And Jeannine talks about living in Europe for two years and figuring out who she was as a playwright.

“They paid me to go to grad school to write so… I’ll take it”

Jeannine talks about moving back to Minnesota knowing that working and living as a playwright was more realistic than in New York. She talks about getting her first play produced and about her decision to go to graduate school in Iowa for playwriting. And about what skills she was able to develop in graduate school that she may not have in the real world.

“Because of the background that I have, I don’t think that I’ve ever fit into the theater”

Jeannine talks about her work with a teaching program called Art Share and the impact that work had on her as a writer and eventually a teaching artist. She talks about her families blue collar background and the role that played in shaping her work ethic as well as her ability to not be heavily money driven. Jeannine also talks about what it means to be an actual expert at something and how to use that expertise to help others.

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TJ Kudalis | Pratfalls of Parenting Ep 50

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“The comedic soul of a piece is all in the editing”

Video maker and father TJ Kudalis talks about the comic timing in editing video and film.

TJ talks about his study of Scottish and Irish poetry and how close he came to being a professor of Scotch/Irish poetry. He talks about how languages are a form of expression and thus a specific way of interpreting the world. TJ talks about how many other versions of languages also exist, such as dance, photography and film.

“Good cinematography replicates the act of seeing”

TJ talks about being an audio/visual nerd. TJ talks about accidentally becoming a web journalist before there were a proliferation of blogs and citizen journalism sites. He talks about creating content specifically for the web rather than just repurposing old print media. TJ also talks about ending up covering a riot, winning awards, and working for a national news organization.

“I used to think I was a great multi-tasker but it turns out I’m bad at paying attention”

TJ talks about narrating his pre-language daughter’s actions as a way of playing with and enjoying her. He also talks about listening to audio books and podcasts that have adult themes with his infant.

“Another thing I didn’t realize is how much time you spend with your kid just hanging out”

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Brendan Kelly (BK-One) | Pratfalls of Parenting Ep 49

IMG_8090“Being a dad is kinda awesome. It’s way better than when I worked at Best Buy”

DJ, producer, record collector, and musician Brendan Kelly, aka BK-One, talks about growing up learning music, obsessing about records, stumbling into DJing and becoming a stay at home dad.

“Every big thing I’ve ever done I’ve been underqualified for”

Talks about spending a decade as a touring DJ and then deciding that fatherhood meant the end of being a touring musician. Brendan talks about the difficulty in creating structure when his only job was music. And Brendan talks about deciding if and how he could keep making music as a stay at home dad.

BK one_0018“I have trouble being productive unless there’s too much to do”

Brendan talks about the business model of an independent musician and the strengths and weaknesses it carries. He talks about the role of the DJ in a rap performance and what it means to be focused on making someone else look good. Brendan also talks about his early obsession with music and records and how that unintentionally moved him into the work of being a DJ.

“I just want to model for them how I got to the things I care about”

Brendan talks about how his identity would change based on whether he was a touring musician or a guy at home or a dad. He talks about his focus as a parent on showing his kids how to care about things rather that what things to care about. Brendan also talks about learning from the other artists he worked with who were already parents about how that might impact his career.

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Susan Shehata | Pratfalls of Parenting Ep 48

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“What I put out into the world has a through-line of personal transformation”

Space Guru, holistic wellness practitioner, musician, producer, designer, radio host, and stepmother Susan Shehata talks about the challenges of describing the work she does because she does so many different creative things. She also talks about her desire to rebrand the idea of stepmotherhood.

“Children are the biggest mirror that we can have”

Susan talks about approaching spaces as an art form. She shares how for her helping people design and shape the spaces where they live or work becomes an art practice for her. She also talks about the creativity of finding and repurposing old or discarded objects.

“It takes some of the joy out of the things you’re passionate about because now they’re also the way you’re going to earn your income”

908613_10200743407489035_1483129684_nSusan talks about having her business partner also be her life partner. She also talks about the challenges of working on big projects with people who are collaborators but also friends because of the sometimes hard to define relationship.

Susan talks about being a stepmother and some of the challenges surrounding sharing parenting relationships not only with her partner but also with her stepdaughter’s other family. She talks about how having so many self-employed projects results in setting her own schedule but also never being off the clock.

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Jayson Clark | Pratfalls of Parenting Ep 47

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“I love my kids but at the same time there’s always that intrinsic need to do ‘something’”

Jayson Clark talks about retiring from the professional rap world to focus on family while also exploring other creative projects.

“I wish when I was 20 I had gone a little harder at my music”

Jayson talks about growing up in Austin, Texas, and how that influenced his perspectives as a creative person but also how different Austin is from the rest of the State. Jayson talks about his first time rapping for an audience and needing to be extremely drunk to get through it.

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“First song I ever kissed a girl to was rap music, that’s what I’m sticking to

Jayson talks about starting out writing poetry and transition into writing and performing raps. Jayson talks about moving from Austin to Minnesota and the challenges of building new relationships with artists. He talks about connecting with other rappers and producers in Minnesota through Facebook, including the guys who would eventually form the Background Noise Crew.

Jayson talks about further pursuing his education while building his rap career in search of some stability. He talks about how becoming a father made him want to create a family life different than how he grew up. Jayson talks about how the work of being a 7th grade classroom teacher is similar to being a performing rapper.

 

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Cory Hinkle | Pratfalls of Parenting Ep 46

cory hinkle“My perception of everything has changed since becoming a parent”

Cory talks about starting out as an actor and transitioning into playwriting. He talks about being a part of Workhaus collective and the motivations behind pulling together as a group of playwrights to help get each others work made. And he talks about what he’s learned about marketing a show by having to produce the work of so many other playwrights.

“I just keep writing the plays that come out of me and that I want to write”

Cory talks about how he discovers ideas by writing and about how he can’t understand what he’s writing about until he’s gotten into the writing. He talks about realizing after completing a play that it was directly informed by recent occurrences in personal relationships. He talks about being embarrassed as a young writer by what his plays were revealing about himself and how that has flipped as he’s gotten deeper in to his career.

“I don’t really have so much time to indulge this because Silas just peed on everything”

Cory talks about his shifting view of divorce as he’s become a dad and as friends have started getting divorced. Cory talks about the difficulty in articulating how differently he sees the world as a parent without seemingly like an annoying parent talking about how “amazing” everything is now that he has children.

“The thing about my dad is he hated being an accountant”

Cory talks about his ideas of adulthood and career as a teenager. He talks about discovering theater at the end of High School and then discovering playwriting while in college. Cory talks about getting more in touch with his voice as a writer the further away he gets from graduate school. He also talks about how looking back on his writing from before he was a dad he can see a different point of view.

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